The secret in how to talk to girls is to remember that they are different than your guy friends.
It may seem like a cliche, but women talk about emotions and feelings and reach a deeper level in conversation than most guys do. Of course there is an exception to every rule, but as a general rule of thumb, guys talk about what they think.
If you want to get a girlfriend, you need to learn how to talk to girls. Just remember: girls want to talk about how they feel not what they think. If you remember that one sentence alone, you are going to be ahead of the game. Let me just repeat it: women talk about how they feel while guys talk about what they think. If you are able to talk to a girl about what you feel, you will be meeting her on her level.
You will stand out from every other guy out there if you only remember this. It helps to even address it in conversation. Use words and phrases such as “How do you feel about that?” or “How did/does that make you feel?”
And then show you are empathetic, by using those words in reference to yourself. For instance, don’t say “I think …. (whatever).” Instead say, “I feel that …. (whatever).” And I want you to really think about how you feel and use those words to describe what you are going through. If you are able to do this, you will be able to connect on a deeper, more meaningful level with women. It will make your life a lot easier and will enhance communication for you and your girl. I guarantee it.
So, if nothing else, remember that men think and women feel and try to put yourself in a woman’s shoes when you strike up a converation with a woman.
Other than that, I would only offer a few other tips. Women like to talk about things that maybe are a bit more meaningful than the score during last night’s ball game. Now, don’t get me wrong, there are lots of great women out there who are sports buffs and will talk a great game with you, but usually if you are just beginning to date, that may not be the conversation they want to have.
What they really want is to be entertained. This is why I tell all my guy friends and those guys who I coach that they need to come up with one really good story to tell. Memorize it. Practice it on everyone you know until you can tell that story when you are half asleep. Every guy I know who is good with girls has one great story he tells. Don’t worry about telling it over and over again. You only need to tell it to each woman one time, but you can practice it on everyone!. Mind is this really creepy true story about strange goings on in this old house I lived in. Girls love this story and love to hear it.
So two things here to remember if you want to know how to get a girlfriend: girls feel, guys think and learn and practice one good story. Good luck.
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