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The Top Three Rules for Dating Hot Women

January 10, 2013 By: Bill Preston Category: Dating Advice

sexy-womanSo, you finally snagged the hottest girl you’ve ever seen grace the planet (which you learned how to get from reading posts on sites like this of course. You’ve gong on your first date and things went smashing but now you are worried about keeping the interest and momentum up. But more than that, you are terrified to the bone that you will somehow blow it and that this good thing will explode in your face and leave you wondering what hit you.

Sometimes it seems like things are sailing along smoothly and then — whammy — it all falls apart. Most of the time, men are left sitting there clueless with no idea how or why or where it went wrong.

Here are three tips to help you avoid blowing it with your dream girl.

1. Whatever you do, don’t compliment this gorgeous woman on her looks. If you do this, you become a dime a dozen guy. You are just like every Joe Blow out there.

If you feel that you absolutely positively can’t resist floating a compliment her way, make it creative and make it count.

Find something to compliment about her that is a statement about some effort she has made, not her God-given natural born looks.

For instance, compliment her on her ability to tell a raunchy joke. Or give her props for her knowledge of obscure German films. In other words, notice and point out something that makes her different and interesting and unique from other women.

2. Avoid telling her you like her at all costs. You should never ever find yourself saying how cool you think she is, or how much you like her, or that you’re so glad you met her or any other chump change like this. You need never tell her you like her. Why? It makes you look lame. And besides that, your actions speak louder than words. If she complains about this or asks you if you like her, you can answer simply by saying “If I didn’t like being around you I wouldn’t waste my time doing so.”

Period. It’s that simple. You need never come out and just say it. It should be obvious and that is way more effective than coming out across like a needy chump.

3.

Don’t always be available. I don’t care how difficult it is to pry yourself away from her loving arms, make sure that you maintain your old life and your old friends at all costs. Tell her occasionally that you are not available to hang out because you already have plans.

You don’t even need to go into details. Until you are in a committed, exclusive relationship with this hottie, you need to maintain mystique and distance if you plan on keeping her around.

Be busy. Have an active life without her. It will only make her want you more. Don’t do it all the time, though.

Moderation, like in all things in life, is the key.

If you follow these three tips alone, you stand a greater chance than average of holding onto that hot chick for life — or as long as you like!  If you need help meeting that perfect girl, I would suggest you start with this newbie guide.  It’s a great resource for guys learning to become good with women.

Want more rules, check out this post on FHM.

Pick Up Artist

November 07, 2012 By: Bill Preston Category: Pick Up Artist

It seems in the past few years that the term Pick Up Artist has got a bad rap. I think part of the reason why is that people don’t seem to understand what the term means or what types of guys it refers to.

I think the most common misconception is that there are these amazingly suave and smooth men out there who are adding notches to their belt by picking up as many woman as they can and then abandoning them.

While I’m not going to say there aren’t any Pick Up Artist types out there who are like this, they are few and far in between (and most live in England — just kidding). But really what the guys in what we call the seduction community are doing is teaching self-improvement skills, confidence and how to flirt.

We are showing that the average looking guy with the average job and average personality can learn techniques and skills to gain the confidence of a guy who looks like Brad Pitt and has the money and personality to match. We teach you how to do this when we share the secrets at http://www.puaforums.

com/.

A lot of the charismatic skills we attribute to men who are successful in meeting women are things that can be taught and can be learned. There are many components to it, but I would have to say the biggest one I teach is the self-improvement aspect. It is realizing that you really are worthy of an amazing gal in your life. So I like to first work on self-esteem and self-confidence with a guy, which includes working on areas that might make him less attractive on the outside (maybe poor posture and bad clothes, etc).

But the most important area to focus on his how he acts and how he is on the inside.

Women don’t always want the most attractive guy in the room. Although we men are programmed biologically to be attracted by a woman’s physical attributes (that indicated a good person to bear his children), women are actually biologically programmed to look at other traits — ones that indicate he will be a good provider.

So really it is more important to focus on other aspects. Once we’ve spent some time doing this, I think it is important to teach men how to speak to women and that includes techniques to conquer that fear of approaching a woman. These are all skills and techniques that can be learned. I know. I’ve done it. I’ve done it so many times that it is completely natural at this point.

I’m so good at it that during PUA boot camps I’ve asked my students to think of the worst possible thing I could say to a girl in front of me and then I’ve gone up and said it and had success. You see the key isnt’ what you say, it is how you say it.

The point of what I’m trying to say here is that the Pick Up Artist community really is out there trying to groom and train men so they can offer women their best self. While there may be a few creeps out there, I would have to say that most men love women and want to meet that one dream woman out there. Although for both genders, we often end up kissing a lot of frogs to get there.

Such is life.

How To Not Sound Needy Over Text Messages

October 25, 2012 By: Bill Preston Category: Texting Girls

Nothing kills attraction quite like a needy, non-alpha male text sent to a girl you just met.

A lot of guys in this dating world don’t take texting as seriously as they should and as a result, they blow it often before they get that first one-on-one meeting.

Don’t blow attraction before you’ve even had a chance to build it.

Text messaging is actually a strategic way to build attraction and arrange for an in-person meeting. When a guy forgets that, all is lost.

It’s not a fun little exercise in communication. In fact, it’s a terrible way to communicate. You can’t tell somebody’s tone, mood, or meaning on text and misunderstandings can easily result.

Many men come across needy when they are texting girls. The biggest mistake they make is texting in a predictable pattern.

In other words, a guy’s response time to a girl becomes predictable. It could be that the guy responds immediately to every text she sends. (God forbid! This screams desperate loser with no life waiting around at home alone for your text!)

Or, nearly as bad, but not quite, is the guy who always, always responds to her text an hour later. Or a day later.

But this is still much more preferable than responding immediately.

But the best way to respond to a girl is to mix it up a bit. Every once in a while, respond to a text immediately. Other times, for no apparent reason, wait a few hours. Another time, wait a day or two.

Also, be the first one to break off contact every once in a while. You might even try doing this in the middle of a conversation. You can always come back the next day and either pretend like there was no gap in time or you can even apologize in a vague, mysterious way, saying, “sorry, something came up.” Either way works.

neonsAlso, to avoid coming off as needy, don’t ask for anything by text. Instead, tell her what is going to happen. For instance, instead of saying, “Want to hang out Friday night,” say “Going to cool new bar, Neon, on Friday. Meet me there.”

Let her be the one to turn it into a question and respond with an answer. Don’t ask. Just tell. If she doesn’t want to go, she’ll let you know. She’ll like your confidence and how you take charge.

Asking things, such as if she wants to meet you someplace, or how she feels, or what she is doing, all reek of neediness. Don’t ask anything.

Instead, tell. Tell her about your awesome day. Tell her about how stoked you are about your new account. Don’t ask. Tell.

So, to avoid coming off needy when you are texting a girl, remember to make sure your response time is not predictable and make sure you are not asking her anything. If you can follow these two rules alone, you are halfway to being a guy who can attract women through texting.

My Favorite Opener Ever

August 25, 2012 By: Bill Preston Category: How To Flirt

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Green logo used from 1987-2010, still being used as a secondary logo. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

“Are you my date?”

No, not you.

You’re a dude reading this right now..

Here’s one of my favorite openers ever—something that you’ve got to have balls to do, but works every single time and gets them laughing.

Whenever I see a woman sitting alone at a table in Starbucks or at a restaurant, if I’m feeling playful and can’t come up with an observation or something to say that’s based on the moment, I’ll just sit down and say,

“Hi, are you Mary? I really hope you’re my date.

And I’ll say that with a big smile. She will immediately laugh. Then she’ll tell you that her name is “Amy, not Mary.”

So, look at her and say, “Unbelievable. I’ve got a blind date right now, I have no idea what she looks like, and when I walked in here, well, I was hoping it was you.”

She’ll blush or smile or laugh, but she’ll be moved.

And then you just have a conversation.

I would say to her at this point, “Hey, can you just pretend you’re my blind date right now, because I’d rather hang out with you anyway, she was kind of weird on the phone.

And then you can take the conversation wherever you want.

You get her cracking up, you get her laughing. And at that point you look at her and say,

“Hey look, I’ve got to go find this blind date of mine. I don’t know where she’s lurking right now. But you know what, I’m not a big blind date person. So, since we’ve already dated for about 5 minutes, why don’t we just go out on a second date. Give me your number and we’ll hang. “

It’s funny, it’s different, and it’s unique. It takes balls. It takes confidence and it works.

Here’s the deal guys: having balls means being able to do things that most guys won’t do. Being able to meet women is all about not just being clever in situations, but just being sure of yourself in all situations.

Confidence is one of the sexiest traits a man can have, so if you often have the balls to be bold with within, they will come to desire you because of that.

This is an opener that creates deep rapport rather quickly, but you have to be confident to pull it off.

Can you be that guy?

Finally! Dating Advice For Men

June 20, 2012 By: Bill Preston Category: Dating Advice

Welcome to Kvinno Forum, with top dating advice for men.  This is the premiere destination for men looking to become better with women and improve their social life.  Whether you are looking to become a PUA (otherwise known as a pick up artist), or just want to have more options with women and dating.

You’ve found the right place. The simple reality is that most guys who are trying to get good with women and are trying to become a PUA will many times just focus on the women instead of themselves.  They project their thoughts and feelings outward and in many cases try to change people around them. It is very manipulative if you break it down.

For example, instead of thinking – what should I work on to improve myself to have other people want to spend time with me, they try to think of easy ways for people to be tricked into liking them. The question someone should ask themselves is “Am I living the type of lifestyle where other guys and gals would want to hang out with me?”  If not, then engineer your life style where you are that fun guy that people enjoy being around.

Don’t be negative, have fun, do fun things.

Take the advice given from guys who are active members of sites like this one, read at least 10 posts a day and focus on constant improvement.

  Hit the gym, learn some new hobbies, learn the best way to text a girl, play some sports.  Be active, social and give love to others. One way to think of this is to lead with a giving hand. Approach your interactions with people, as how can I make them happier that this instant?

Learn some opening lines that will help break the ice, then focus on bringing them value.  Now don’t be a wussy, or act needy or do things JUST to make people happy at your expense… but find ways for both of you to have fun.

Bring them value, instead of manipulating them or the situation to take value.

  Most guys don’t think of dating in this way, they are much too aware of what they are going to get out of an interaction, instead of taking the time to think about what the people around them are getting.

Remember, everyone wants a few simple things in life.

They want to be happy, they want to feel safe and they want to feel like other people respect them.  If you can provide those simple things to them, they will naturally be drawn to you as a person since you are fulfilling their core values in life. So listen, get out there start meeting people and think of how you are delivering value to everyone you are talking to at that moment.

Stay out of your own head, and instead enjoy the moment you are in and consciously think about how the people you are with are feeling.

  Are their core values being met?  If not, focus on what you can do to deliver a positive experience to help make their night better. If you take the time to do that, all of your interactions with women (and people in general) will dramatically improve. So get out there and give it a try. Bill Preston

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How To Pick Up Women At Work

June 12, 2012 By: Bill Preston Category: Pick Up Women

When you want to pick up women at work you have to be especially carefully. If you do something wrong you might end being charged for harassment. And even if you do everything right there can be misunderstandings and a lot of uncomfortable feelings when the relationship ends.
While it might seem simpler to pick up a woman at work for some reasons (you have valid reasons to talk to her, you know her, you can find reasonable pretences to talk to her, etc.) it is in a way more complicated that picking girls in the pub or in the club because of the same reasons.
Before you go for it you should in depth weigh all pros and cons of the situation and make your decisions accordingly. First of all, decide if she is worth it. If you have doubts better move on and leave her alone. If you are sure you want to do this, go ahead but you might want to follow few of the rules about how to pick up women at work.

1. Greet her every time you see her. A simple hi or hello is the first step to getting a woman. Short greetings turn into short conversations.

Be charming and unobtrusive.
2.

Smile at her. Just a quick smile, no staring. Keep it simple. Your smile should make her feel comfortable and not threatened.

At the same time she should not come to the conclusion that you might have some hidden agenda.

Be your usual self, friendly and polite.
3. If you are lucky and this is the woman you work together on a project or in the same office and not some different department, look for any kind of opportunities to use. She did a good job on something, compliment her. Tell and show her what a good co-worker she is and how you appreciate her intelligence and dedication.
4.

Don’t be afraid to ask her go with you for lunch or a cup of coffee. This is nothing unusual when it comes to co-workers. If you see she is uncomfortable, ask other co-workers to join you.
5. Once you have the opportunity to spend time together, be at your best self, flirt with her but don’t overdo it.

6. Make traditions. It can be anything. Send her good morning mails every day, or go for lunch every second day in a week, or anything that comes to your mind. You should become an integral part of your life. But don’t wait for long before you proceed to the next step. Once you cross the invisible line of becoming buddies it will be tough to get back to your initial plan.
7.

Ask her out on a date. Make sure she understands you want an actual date and not one of your routine meetings.

Starting from the first date treat her as you would treat any other woman you want to pick up. Consider the company’s dating policy before proceeding to any serious steps.

When To Ask For A Girls Number

May 27, 2012 By: Bill Preston Category: When To Ask For A Girls Phone Number

You met a girl you like and want to ask for her phone number. Yet, you don’t know how soon is too soon. It is a question that pops up in many minds. And as usual, there is no written manual or specified rules to abide by.

You can get her number after a 2-minutes talk in the club, or you can go around her for days before you gather all the courage to approach her and ask for a number.

You should clearly understand what you want and what your intentions are.

Do you want to get a girl’s phone number just for the sake of having the number, or do you actually plan to use this number because you like her and want to text the girl?

(Photo credit: Domiriel)

The first thing you should remember when asking for a girl’s phone number is don’t push it. You obviously can get a number after a few minutes conversation though there is no guarantee it is not a fake number. But what’s the point of the phone number if you don’t really know a girl. Make sure this is a girl whose number you would really like to use.

It will take you 20-30 minutes at least to find out if you connect on some levels.

Getting phone numbers isn’t a competition. Like with everything in life it is not about quantity but about quality. You sure don’t want any fake numbers or the numbers that won’t respond. Getting a number too soon increases the chances that the girl won’t recognize you the next day when you call.

Before asking for a phone number look out for signs. Try to understand if she is interested. Direct eye-contact or a smile can be some of indicators here.

Don’t be afraid or don’t over-think the situation.

Take your chances. The worse that can happen is her not giving you the number. But it is also an experience you should have. Be prepared to the situations like this.

When talking to a girl keep things simple. Be polite and friendly. Smile and be open. You don’t want to scare her away or think that you are a stalker. Girls are reluctant to give their phone numbers to strangers. Yet, they are ready to consider the possibility if she does not see you as a threat.

Of course, not always you have an opportunity to chat for 20 minutes with a girl. Sometimes you can meet interesting women at unexpected places such as supermarkets or gas stations. It won’t be possible to continue a conversation for very long given the circumstances.

In this case you can ask for a number after a few minutes talk provided you see a potential.

All in all you should be prepared.

• Make sure you know what to say and how to say it.
• Don’t forget to ask her name.
• Most importantly don’t forget to introduce yourself.
• Be open and friendly.

• Be prepared to handle a “no”. Learn to turn this “no” (or any excuses that come with it) into a “yes”

How To Flirt With a Girl

May 17, 2012 By: Bill Preston Category: How To Flirt

exercise makes you horny (Photo credit: Will Lion)

Most men (especially guys who are trying to become a PUA), place too much emphasis on every interaction they have with women.

When they do that — build the conversation up in their mind to a life-or-death situation, of course they are going to stumble over their words and fail when they get a chance to talk to a beautiful woman.

The way to overcoming this is to learn how to flirt at any time, anywhere and with anyone. It is a lot easier than it might seem. The basis of flirting is to engage in an interaction that lets the other person know you find them interesting. Realizing that the key is as simple as letting someone know you find them interesting takes a lot of pressure off the conversation.

A lot of guys may not realize this, but becoming a skillful flirt takes practice.

But here’s the secret: Don’t wait until a woman is around to practice.  Practice on everyone at any time. That means learn how to have a decent conversation with the UPS guy, the elderly librarian, the kid who works at the grocery store. It’s not about expressing sexual attraction, it’s about having a conversation with someone you find interesting. Finding someone interesting doesn’t mean you want to sleep with them. It means you are appreciating the qualities that make them unique and are expressing that interest.

I think the reason so many guys have issues with flirting is that they really don’t understand what it is. It is a way to playfully interact with another person. It is done in such a way that the other person knows that someone else finds them unique and interesting.

Just this simple definition takes a lot of the pressure off.

Combined with a little bit of practice and anyone can become a great flirt in no time.

It really is easy. Nothing is more fascinating than speaking to somebody who is genuinely interested in you as a person and what you have to say. So not only are you learning to flirt, but you are spreading good karma everywhere you go. The thing to remember in all this, is that whatever you do and whatever you say, make sure it is genuine.

Along with learning how to flirt you are also enriching your own life by appreciating others.

Once you have mastered the art of the flirt, you will be prepared when the girl of your dreams walks in the room.

Instead of stuttering and being tongue tied, you will talk to her naturally and easily and even if she doesn’t leave with you, you will feel like a million bucks.
More:
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http://www.psychologytoday.

com/basics/flirting

Keep Your Sex Life Hot

May 16, 2012 By: Bill Preston Category: Sex Life

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shmoo (Photo credit: Exploding Aardvark)

A new book talks about how cutsie little nicknames are insidious poison in any long-lasting relationship.

According to the authors of “Stop Calling Him Honey and Start Having Sex!” these terms of endearment are the death knell for any passion. Let’s take a look at a typical, hypothetical, relationship.

In the beginning:

Your eyes meet and it is like a thunderbolt. Within a few weeks, you are her “Schmoo” and she is your “Hunny Bunny” and that’s just the way you both like it.

In a way, it’s like your own secret, affectionate language. Nobody else calls her that. You are a special couple and your love and passion runs oh so deep. Really, you’ve never felt this way about anyone before. You both are enamored of one another and try to spend every possible second together. You could care less about anyone or anything else in your life. And the sex? Out of this world. Into the stratosphere.

Five years later: Not so great. You might have sex once a month when “Hunny Bunny” deigns to share the bed with you.

You are her “Schmoo” still, especially when she wants you to start a load of laundry.

Now you cringe everytime she calls you “Schmoo.” The worst part of all, you bought a dog a few years ago and she also calls the dog “Schmoo” sometimes. So not only do you feel emasculated, but you feel like the dog. As long as you wag your tail, everything will be fine.

And who in their right mind wants to get busy with a woman who treats you like the dog? Not me. We, as men, want to be masculine. We want to be manly and attractive to our women. Of course, there are times when we are sweet and cuddly with our girls, but that is not how we are all the time.

We are also men who like to have sex. It is hard to be aroused when we are using cute little nicknames for each other.

Do You Like Horny Bunnies?

Do You Like Horny Bunnies? (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

So what is the solution? According to the authors of this book, start using each other’s proper names.

Start calling each other Cynthia and Richard. Stop calling each other “Poopsie” and “Loopsie” or whatever.

See if you can get the spark going again in your relationship. If you are in a new relationship, but a stop to that right now. You might not think it will diminish sexual desire and you’re right — that early in the relationship it won’t. But eventually it will.

The reason it doesn’t hurt in the beginnign is that nothing could diminish that first spark of sexual craving, not even an earthquake.

So nix those cutsie names and start calling each other by your real names. It could be a shorter version of your girl’s real name. For instance, if her name is Jennifer, maybe you’ll call her Jen or Jenny, but not Dumplin or something like that.

Although there are dozens of other worthy tips in this book, I’ll share one more with you: make sure you take time to make eye contact with your girl at least once every day for a prolonged length of time.

Spice Up Your Sex Life

May 14, 2012 By: Bill Preston Category: Better Intimacy

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Is it getting a little dull in the bedroom lately? Don’t despair and stay right where you are. When this happens, many people make the mistake of leaving the relationship to soon (check this out for more info), only to find that the exact same scenario happens again somewhere down the road with a new partner.

It is inevitable that desire will wane.  But it can be revived. That spark can be recaptured.

According to a new book “Stop Calling Him Honey … and Start Having Sex!” by Maggie Arana and Julienne Davis, there is quite a bit you can do to rev up your bedroom life again. They recommend everything from banishing baby talks and cute nicknames to closing the bathroom door when you do your duty. Also, don’t forget how to attract women, your significant other will notice this and it will kick up their attraction for you.

Here are a list of  other ideas to spice up your sex life:

1. Argue More.

The authors say that this is not only good for your sex life, but good for your relationship in general. With a big warning: it must be good spirited disagreements that involve a smile and nothing that is hurtful or mean. Differences add spice to life and relationships.

2. Stand Your Ground.

In other words, maintain your differences.

Those are what attracted you to one another in the first place. Nothing is more boring to your relationship than agreeing on everything and having similar opinions and likes on everything under the sun.

3. Don’t Put (Her) on a Pedestal. The book actually recommends girls not put guys on a pedestal, but it works both ways. Perfect is boring and will never last. A woman will look elsewhere if you worship her and put her on a pedestal.

4. Learn to Dance. The same concepts behind dancing where there is always movement needs to be applied to relationships as well. Sometimes you will lead. Other times she will. It is OK for her to lead at times.

In fact, you will probably think it is sexy.

Here are some of the ways they summarize the ways to keep the fire alive:

* “Don’t dilute your personality just because you are in a relationship. Keep it strong and fiesty.

* “Always argue with a wink and a smile. Keep it fun and humorous, taking care not to ‘punch below the belt’ with your jibes.”

* “If you catch yourself saying, ‘Whatver you like, honey” too often, stop right there and speak your mind!”

*” Every so often, reexamine your tastes and opinions. Are they really yours?” (Or are they hers?)

* Don’t be afraid to drive your partner a little crazy. being annoying can actually turn (her) on!” (The author’s wrote “him” on, but as I said, I think this advice applies to both genders.)

There is much more in this book with some really valid tips to help you spice up your sex life. They are easy ideas to incorporate into your life and your relationship. They don’t cost a bit of money, only some time and energy. If you take a little bit of time and start doing things a little bit different, you can find just what you are looking for in what you already have.