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Spice Up Your Sex Life

May 14, 2012 By: Bill Preston Category: Better Intimacy


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Is it getting a little dull in the bedroom lately? Don’t despair and stay right where you are. When this happens, many people make the mistake of leaving the relationship to soon (check this out for more info), only to find that the exact same scenario happens again somewhere down the road with a new partner.

It is inevitable that desire will wane.  But it can be revived. That spark can be recaptured.

According to a new book “Stop Calling Him Honey … and Start Having Sex!” by Maggie Arana and Julienne Davis, there is quite a bit you can do to rev up your bedroom life again. They recommend everything from banishing baby talks and cute nicknames to closing the bathroom door when you do your duty. Also, don’t forget how to attract women, your significant other will notice this and it will kick up their attraction for you.

Here are a list of  other ideas to spice up your sex life:

1. Argue More.

The authors say that this is not only good for your sex life, but good for your relationship in general. With a big warning: it must be good spirited disagreements that involve a smile and nothing that is hurtful or mean. Differences add spice to life and relationships.

2. Stand Your Ground.

In other words, maintain your differences.

Those are what attracted you to one another in the first place. Nothing is more boring to your relationship than agreeing on everything and having similar opinions and likes on everything under the sun.

3. Don’t Put (Her) on a Pedestal. The book actually recommends girls not put guys on a pedestal, but it works both ways. Perfect is boring and will never last. A woman will look elsewhere if you worship her and put her on a pedestal.

4. Learn to Dance. The same concepts behind dancing where there is always movement needs to be applied to relationships as well. Sometimes you will lead. Other times she will. It is OK for her to lead at times.

In fact, you will probably think it is sexy.

Here are some of the ways they summarize the ways to keep the fire alive:

* “Don’t dilute your personality just because you are in a relationship. Keep it strong and fiesty.

* “Always argue with a wink and a smile. Keep it fun and humorous, taking care not to ‘punch below the belt’ with your jibes.”

* “If you catch yourself saying, ‘Whatver you like, honey” too often, stop right there and speak your mind!”

*” Every so often, reexamine your tastes and opinions. Are they really yours?” (Or are they hers?)

* Don’t be afraid to drive your partner a little crazy. being annoying can actually turn (her) on!” (The author’s wrote “him” on, but as I said, I think this advice applies to both genders.)

There is much more in this book with some really valid tips to help you spice up your sex life. They are easy ideas to incorporate into your life and your relationship. They don’t cost a bit of money, only some time and energy. If you take a little bit of time and start doing things a little bit different, you can find just what you are looking for in what you already have.

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