Most men (especially guys who are trying to become a PUA), place too much emphasis on every interaction they have with women.
When they do that — build the conversation up in their mind to a life-or-death situation, of course they are going to stumble over their words and fail when they get a chance to talk to a beautiful woman.
The way to overcoming this is to learn how to flirt at any time, anywhere and with anyone. It is a lot easier than it might seem. The basis of flirting is to engage in an interaction that lets the other person know you find them interesting. Realizing that the key is as simple as letting someone know you find them interesting takes a lot of pressure off the conversation.
A lot of guys may not realize this, but becoming a skillful flirt takes practice. But here’s the secret: Don’t wait until a woman is around to practice. Practice on everyone at any time. That means learn how to have a decent conversation with the UPS guy, the elderly librarian, the kid who works at the grocery store. It’s not about expressing sexual attraction, it’s about having a conversation with someone you find interesting. Finding someone interesting doesn’t mean you want to sleep with them. It means you are appreciating the qualities that make them unique and are expressing that interest.
I think the reason so many guys have issues with flirting is that they really don’t understand what it is. It is a way to playfully interact with another person. It is done in such a way that the other person knows that someone else finds them unique and interesting.
Just this simple definition takes a lot of the pressure off. Combined with a little bit of practice and anyone can become a great flirt in no time. It really is easy. Nothing is more fascinating than speaking to somebody who is genuinely interested in you as a person and what you have to say. So not only are you learning to flirt, but you are spreading good karma everywhere you go. The thing to remember in all this, is that whatever you do and whatever you say, make sure it is genuine.
Along with learning how to flirt you are also enriching your own life by appreciating others.
Once you have mastered the art of the flirt, you will be prepared when the girl of your dreams walks in the room. Instead of stuttering and being tongue tied, you will talk to her naturally and easily and even if she doesn’t leave with you, you will feel like a million bucks.