It seems in the past few years that the term Pick Up Artist has got a bad rap. I think part of the reason why is that people don’t seem to understand what the term means or what types of guys it refers to.
I think the most common misconception is that there are these amazingly suave and smooth men out there who are adding notches to their belt by picking up as many woman as they can and then abandoning them.
While I’m not going to say there aren’t any Pick Up Artist types out there who are like this, they are few and far in between (and most live in England — just kidding). But really what the guys in what we call the seduction community are doing is teaching self-improvement skills, confidence and how to flirt.
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A lot of the charismatic skills we attribute to men who are successful in meeting women are things that can be taught and can be learned. There are many components to it, but I would have to say the biggest one I teach is the self-improvement aspect. It is realizing that you really are worthy of an amazing gal in your life. So I like to first work on self-esteem and self-confidence with a guy, which includes working on areas that might make him less attractive on the outside (maybe poor posture and bad clothes, etc). But the most important area to focus on his how he acts and how he is on the inside. Women don’t always want the most attractive guy in the room. Although we men are programmed biologically to be attracted by a woman’s physical attributes (that indicated a good person to bear his children), women are actually biologically programmed to look at other traits — ones that indicate he will be a good provider.
So really it is more important to focus on other aspects. Once we’ve spent some time doing this, I think it is important to teach men how to speak to women and that includes techniques to conquer that fear of approaching a woman. These are all skills and techniques that can be learned. I know. I’ve done it. I’ve done it so many times that it is completely natural at this point.
I’m so good at it that during PUA boot camps I’ve asked my students to think of the worst possible thing I could say to a girl in front of me and then I’ve gone up and said it and had success. You see the key isnt’ what you say, it is how you say it.
The point of what I’m trying to say here is that the Pick Up Artist community really is out there trying to groom and train men so they can offer women their best self. While there may be a few creeps out there, I would have to say that most men love women and want to meet that one dream woman out there. Although for both genders, we often end up kissing a lot of frogs to get there. Such is life.