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November 07, 2012 By: Bill Preston Category: Pick Up Artist

It seems in the past few years that the term Pick Up Artist has got a bad rap. I think part of the reason why is that people don’t seem to understand what the term means or what types of guys it refers to.

I think the most common misconception is that there are these amazingly suave and smooth men out there who are adding notches to their belt by picking up as many woman as they can and then abandoning them.

While I’m not going to say there aren’t any Pick Up Artist types out there who are like this, they are few and far in between (and most live in England — just kidding). But really what the guys in what we call the seduction community are doing is teaching self-improvement skills, confidence and how to flirt.

We are showing that the average looking guy with the average job and average personality can learn techniques and skills to gain the confidence of a guy who looks like Brad Pitt and has the money and personality to match. We teach you how to do this when we share the secrets at http://www.puaforums.com/.

A lot of the charismatic skills we attribute to men who are successful in meeting women are things that can be taught and can be learned. There are many components to it, but I would have to say the biggest one I teach is the self-improvement aspect. It is realizing that you really are worthy of an amazing gal in your life. So I like to first work on self-esteem and self-confidence with a guy, which includes working on areas that might make him less attractive on the outside (maybe poor posture and bad clothes, etc). But the most important area to focus on his how he acts and how he is on the inside. Women don’t always want the most attractive guy in the room. Although we men are programmed biologically to be attracted by a woman’s physical attributes (that indicated a good person to bear his children), women are actually biologically programmed to look at other traits — ones that indicate he will be a good provider.

So really it is more important to focus on other aspects. Once we’ve spent some time doing this, I think it is important to teach men how to speak to women and that includes techniques to conquer that fear of approaching a woman. These are all skills and techniques that can be learned. I know. I’ve done it. I’ve done it so many times that it is completely natural at this point.

I’m so good at it that during PUA boot camps I’ve asked my students to think of the worst possible thing I could say to a girl in front of me and then I’ve gone up and said it and had success. You see the key isnt’ what you say, it is how you say it.

The point of what I’m trying to say here is that the Pick Up Artist community really is out there trying to groom and train men so they can offer women their best self. While there may be a few creeps out there, I would have to say that most men love women and want to meet that one dream woman out there. Although for both genders, we often end up kissing a lot of frogs to get there. Such is life.

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Finally! Dating Advice For Men

June 20, 2012 By: Bill Preston Category: Dating Advice

Welcome to Kvinno Forum, with top dating advice for men.  This is the premiere destination for men looking to become better with women and improve their social life.  Whether you are looking to become a PUA (otherwise known as a pick up artist), or just want to have more options with women and dating.

You’ve found the right place. The simple reality is that most guys who are trying to get good with women and are trying to become a PUA will many times just focus on the women instead of themselves.  They project their thoughts and feelings outward and in many cases try to change people around them. It is very manipulative if you break it down.

For example, instead of thinking – what should I work on to improve myself to have other people want to spend time with me, they try to think of easy ways for people to be tricked into liking them. The question someone should ask themselves is “Am I living the type of lifestyle where other guys and gals would want to hang out with me?”  If not, then engineer your life style where you are that fun guy that people enjoy being around. Don’t be negative, have fun, do fun things.

Take the advice given from guys who are active members of sites like this one, read at least 10 posts a day and focus on constant improvement.  Hit the gym, learn some new hobbies, learn the best way to text a girl, play some sports.  Be active, social and give love to others. One way to think of this is to lead with a giving hand. Approach your interactions with people, as how can I make them happier that this instant?

Learn some opening lines that will help break the ice, then focus on bringing them value.  Now don’t be a wussy, or act needy or do things JUST to make people happy at your expense… but find ways for both of you to have fun. Bring them value, instead of manipulating them or the situation to take value.  Most guys don’t think of dating in this way, they are much too aware of what they are going to get out of an interaction, instead of taking the time to think about what the people around them are getting. Remember, everyone wants a few simple things in life.

They want to be happy, they want to feel safe and they want to feel like other people respect them.  If you can provide those simple things to them, they will naturally be drawn to you as a person since you are fulfilling their core values in life. So listen, get out there start meeting people and think of how you are delivering value to everyone you are talking to at that moment.

Stay out of your own head, and instead enjoy the moment you are in and consciously think about how the people you are with are feeling.  Are their core values being met?  If not, focus on what you can do to deliver a positive experience to help make their night better. If you take the time to do that, all of your interactions with women (and people in general) will dramatically improve. So get out there and give it a try. Bill Preston

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